When to say “I love you”?


I LOVE YOU: six letters, three words …

…. For such great significance.

To say “I love you” is to reveal your feelings, to expose yourself, to expose yourself … This is THE universal declaration of LOVE. And we know that behind its romantic value, there are real issues in this sentence.

Even at the age of 10 when we were once pre-pubescent, the “I love you” was of great importance. Like our parents, we wanted to have a special relationship with someone. ( Pledge of happiness and intense connivance ). Unconsciously we knew that these words represented a commitment.

This stage which generates so many questions; ”  When will he tell me I love you?”  ” Is he afraid to say, I love you because he is afraid of engagement?” ”  I’m not sure I like him ” ”  It’s too early to tell him I love you, right?” ” Do I really like him?” “; appears to be essential.  

Indeed, the first “I love you” is sacred. It symbolizes the beginning of a new direction in the romantic relationship. Which is considered, more intensedeep, and respectful. It marks the end of the “exploration phase”. Acceptance of the other in his totality, in his singularity. There begins the dreams and projections of the future for two.

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However the first I love you can be desecrated, and lose all its meaning if:

says too soon…

We are happy, happy, the other also we see in his eyes, it’s wonderful, so we think we are in love… Yet it’s not been that long, but we get along so well… So we drop the bomb after, just, three dates.

ERROR, ERROR!

During the beginnings of a relationship (Passion) biochemists have demonstrated that the body produces a hormone called phenylethylamine (yeah, I can’t say it either), this hormone is responsible for our euphoric states. It has the same effects as cocaine! ( “C” is an illegal substance, you are not allowed to use it!)

So beware of hyperactive and impulsive, no rush. No excitement (well if), we do not get carried away, the “I love you” is sacred and should not be said too soon. Because feelings are exacerbated during the beginnings of a relationship. And of course, we are rational and responsible beings, we prefer to take a step back before engaging in anything

It is preferable to have a minimum of knowledge about the personality of the other to be sure to love his faults as his qualities. Patience, the time that the “passion” period passes, to ensure the veracity and the durability of the feelings that are built.

… And too often (risk of trivializing the “I love you”)

The “I love you” in some couples is trivialized, is pronounced as a polite formula after a phone call, before leaving for work, in thanks for a service rendered, released as a goodbye … This statement is sometimes made without emotions, which also trivializes feelings. And creates, among other things, the routine.

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Repetition makes it ordinary, common. In short, it is desecrated. In that case:

What are the best times to say “I love you” while keeping its romantic and sacred significance?

  • Cute moments like, when lying down; Special occasion, birthday or Valentine’s Day; In response to an I love you, we remain polite; During love…
  • Or even during all the little moments of complicity, intimate, where an “I love you” is required.
  • An “I love you” said from time to time, at selected times makes it more special, rare, and enjoyable.