The emotional lift during separation

A good day, a bad day, or laughter to tears!

Basically,  the emotional lift is when you go very quickly from a positive emotion (project, joy, hope, laughter, well being) to negative emotion (disappointment, fear, sadness, distress, anger, a spirit of revenge…).

Do you recognize yourself?

I assure you it is completely normal in the situation that you live!

This inner change can be triggered by a memory, an object or by a person and can happen from one minute to the next (and no it’s not because of your period!).

Your needs and your values ​​are not satisfied in this period, the fear of the unknown, certain insecurity (material and emotional) also vary your emotions.

Things are not clear to you, which takes you to emotions that vary from one moment to another or from one day to another.

Your ideas and your desires are constantly changing, it’s normal.

It is part of the mourning process of your old life, to move towards the new.

Like a teenager entering adult life!

It reminds me of the adolescent who goes from childhood to adult life. He finds it difficult to leave what he knows and plans at the same time in the life of a future adult.

So he tries new perspectives, then he is afraid and returns to what he knows (a step forward, a step back) to finally accept one day to live his new life.

His parental nest belongs to him less and less, he faces his fears, leaves his comfort zone and plunges into his adult life, sometimes with small steps, sometimes by doing the splits.

I recommend that you watch the film  “Tangui 1”  and make the parallel with his fears (unconscious) and yours, the love he knows of his parents with the one he will know.

How he leaves with his fears to return then how he takes the plunge!

With a little imagination, I bet you will recognize yourself! (okay his parents are kind, may have nothing to do with your ex, but …).

A Little scene of life

Here is a day like any other after separation. You feel sad, angry, maybe even in despair. You feel that you need, want to get out of it.

But how? You are looking on the internet for a solution to your distress.

Then finally you decide to make an appointment with a professional … it is important to feel supported in these moments. A neutral person and certainly more objective than your best friend or your family. You can’t blame them they love you, they protect you.

The day of the meeting arrives and you chat with a friend who gives you a good idea for your future, or who shows you all the advantages of your new freedom.

Better, you meet a man by going to meet your friend and you feel that he is not insensitive to your charm…

Thanks to this type of event, you feel joy and ambition reborn in you, sometimes like a spark that ignites, sometimes like a great bonfire. That’s it you think you are finally released from your sadness, your anger …

“Phew! I’m better ”

The day goes by and your appointment with your therapist or your coach arrives.
“Why go to this session, I don’t need it anymore, I’m fine!” ”
You cancel your session and life is beautiful.

The little nothing at all, the not much that makes you rock

You go home and… a photo, an object, music, loneliness, an email reminds you of your situation and hop you fall into nostalgia, fear, anger, tears…

And of course, you regret not having assumed your appointment or worse you feel guilty and again:  emotional lift.  Your feelings and emotions exhaust you. Sometimes you may even have the impression that you are going to go mad.

The cause: the fluctuation of your emotions and not it’s still not your period.

Understand that this is normal and that it can take a while.

So the next time you feel beautiful, happy, full of plans and ambition for your bright future, remember that during your reconstruction you will still experience positive… and negative emotions.

Rest assured, over time you will go from 2 bad days and one good day to 3 good days including 2 average hours. Accept that it takes a little time for your body and your heart to adjust to its new life.

Your coach, your shrink knows this emotional lift well.  To accompany you towards your well-being, it receives you on rainy and also sunny days.

May each day serve to embellish and enhance your new life. Also remember that it is when you go for the best, that your coach or your shrink also has a wonderful action.

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