In a relationship, what you want VS what you need (Decoding according to your astrological sign)


You don’t always get what you want.

Do you know what your zodiac sign wants or needs in a couple relationship? Even if you think you know, sometimes you get it wrong. Although the experience allows to improve, who would spend his life trying to discover what he needs, when astrology already knows the answer?

It is very difficult to grasp the difference between what you want from a couple relationship and what you need in order to be happy, especially when everything is linked to your astrological sign. If you only dwell on what you want from a couple relationship – in general, without taking into consideration your astrological sign – you risk gravitating only around what makes you globally happy in life, or in friendship.

As far as I’m concerned, the people who can really make me laugh (not those who trigger a simple embarrassed laugh intended to make them understand that we want them to leave us alone) are the ones who attract me the most.

But is this person capable of making me laugh out loud the one I need for a relationship that lasts? Probably not.

There must be other bases; whether I realize it or not, there is something much more important than the ability to make me laugh, if I want to be happy in my relationship (and if I want it to last too).

I am not saying that what you want is not important or that it will not make you happy , but it is not enough.

Look at it this way: if you’re only dating someone who’s fit or model-like, can you really hope your relationship will last?

The answer is no, unless you have a secret that superficial relationships will last forever.

What I mean is that happiness takes multiple forms.

But YOU are the only one who knows (deep down) what you need in order for your couple relationships to last and be happy.

For some astrological signs, wants and needs are identical.

Maybe instead of wanting to be with someone who makes you laugh, you need to be with someone who lets you feel wanted and loved.

And if for that, this person makes you laugh in order to calm you down or get closer to you, it is a way of joining your desires to your needs.

But it’s different for each sign. The fact that you want something in your relationship does not mean that it is beneficial for you.

For example, you may want someone who makes each day exciting, but if you tend to be an adventurer, you don’t need someone who has a personality similar to yours. On the contrary, you may need someone more who is pragmatic and brings you down to earth when necessary.

To someone extreme and passionate, it may seem boring, but you only discover what you need once you find it in someone else.

You will quickly understand that it is essential to have someone who brings you down to earth.

As I said, we are all different and we all have different needs and wants when it comes to couple relationships. Whatever astrology says, it is important to know the difference between these two things.

Whether you are looking for a partner or want to work on your current relationship, read on to find out what you want and what you need in order to be happy as a couple.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries, you want a partner who is beautiful and makes you beautiful by being by your side. You are not superficial, strictly speaking, but you appreciate seduction in all its forms – a pretty face, a sculpted body and a dazzling smile.

You want someone whose merits you can boast and who are also capable of making each day exciting.

On the other hand, you need someone with whom you will not be bored. Living passionate days is one thing, but living each day like the previous one can quickly become boring.

You need someone who is patient at all times (and who is not shy about being lenient when necessary).

But above all, you need someone who does not run away at the slightest difficulty or at the first argument!

TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)

Bull, you want a relationship straight out of a romantic movie; with boundless attention and love.

Your ideal partner is someone who thinks you are perfect, but who will still devote their life to fixing your faults – someone who loves you so much that they are ready to change everything for you.

What you really need is a relationship based on deep mutual respect. Whether it’s something you’ve discussed or an implied agreement, you know better than anyone that without respect there is no love.

You need someone who is also good enough for you (and vice versa) – not someone you hope to change.

GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)

Gemini, you have so many expectations in terms of couple relationships that you want someone who meets all of them or nothing! You want someone who is incredibly bright and funny, but who is not afraid to admit cracks.

In other words, you want to go out with yourself … Or at least, with someone who is your alter ego.

On the other hand, you need someone who balances you, who has a different personality but complementary to yours.

You need someone who is wise and understanding; someone who truly listens to you when you speak.

You need someone with serious self-control – in a couple relationship, there is usually only room for a spontaneous personality: which is a good thing (making the couple more dynamic).

CANCER (June 21 – July 22)

Cancer, everyone who knows you knows that you want a couple relationship that is only affection, love and attention. You want someone who will not abuse your feelings (intentionally or by accident), because you will be united by a love stronger than any potential argument.

If you had to choose, you would want someone who knows exactly what you want and when you want it – without having to open your mouth.

But Cancer, this kind of relationship only seems realistic to you! What you really need is someone to help you relax and soothe yourself.

You may not realize it, but you are so obsessed with your expectations that you barely have time to enjoy love.

Rather than dating someone who can read your mind, you should find a partner who is loyal , patient, and honest – so you never have to worry about how they really feel. you.

LION (July 23 – August 22)

You are a Lion and it is not surprising that you want someone who is your biggest fan. You love attention and want a lot!

You happen to make mistakes and forget to share love, but that’s what a partner is all about, isn’t it?

And if everything goes as planned, you get a partner whose merits you can praise with your friends and who can help you boost your popularity rating.

But dear Lion, ask yourself this: is this really what you need? No, what you need is a person who says things as they are; someone who is honest and not afraid to tell you when you behave like a selfish person.

You need someone who is wise, understanding and willing to work with you and to help you if needed.

Your partner should be forgiving and loving, without being overly stuffy or submissive.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgo, you want a partner who is autonomous (almost barely involved in your relationship) and who you can lead by the nose (but gently).

You want someone who is at least as intelligent and logical as you and who is also able to absorb your tendency to criticize.

In other words, a partner who can be there for you but who can also leave you space as soon as you require it.

Rather than going in search of what you want (and which in no way corresponds to a couple relationship), think of what you need. Criticism is crucial in your life, but most of all you need someone who can appreciate everything you do for yourself and for others.

You need someone who makes you happy and secures you, while keeping a part of mystery. Above all, you need a partner who knows who he is, so you don’t need to take care of him.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Your main goal in a relationship is to find someone who looks good on Instagram.

You want everyone else to secretly envy your couple, because they are as romantic as possible and because you are both adorable.

You also want someone who can give you all the attention you’ve always dreamed of, in a tender and romantic way.

But Libra, what you really need is a best friend – not a trophy. You need someone you can talk to and get to know (even after years). Above all, you need someone who will not benefit from your kindness and love.

And when things turn sour, you will need a mediator, someone who makes you feel like you can take over the world, not who leaves you in the dark.

SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)

You know that having control over your life is a source of power. So being in a relationship where you have control and is omnipresent is something you’ve always wanted.

Yes, you also want passion and a form of worship, but above all, you want a partner who is docile and completely devoted to you.

Scorpio, this kind of relationship only works in romance novels … So, it is better to revise your desires down as much as you can.

What you really need is a relationship based on respect and someone who has guts – even if it is more pleasant to be with someone who is completely in your charm.

You need foolproof loyalty . You need to know that your partner will never hurt you – that they prove it to you through their loyalty and honesty.

SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 19)

You know that a serious relationship can be scary and difficult and therefore you want someone who is not only interested in a perfect relationship.

You want someone who adheres to your values ​​and who looks like you, like an alter ego.

You want someone who is dangerous and fun, someone who is ready anytime he is with you.

Just because you like to have fun and want to be free doesn’t mean that those are the only important things in a relationship. You need a partner who balances your life as a couple, without forcing yourself to sacrifice your independence.

You need someone who understands you and understands that you both have needs (both within and outside of the couple). A partner who can forgive and make you feel loved and wanted.

CAPRICORNE (December 20 – January 19)

Capricorn, you want a partner who has the same opinions as you and a couple relationship that does not get in the way of your professional life. It should be easy and fulfilling, without you having to put in too much effort.

You want someone who is loyal and has a relationship that sounds perfect to everyone around you, even if you know that you are not.

What you really need is someone who helps you free your mind and realizes that the best things life has to offer are right before your eyes.

Capricorn, you need imagination and freshness, because you are more adult than the most adult of adults!

Of course, you must be able to remain yourself and your partner must not be a man-child either, but he must let you wear the pants…

AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)

Aquarius, you want a couple relationship that is complete, a little everything, while remaining unique. You want a partner who is brilliant, romantic and funny at the same time. Someone who can also be your best friend.

Freedom is essential to you, so you want to be in a relationship, maintain a solid relationship, while maintaining your independence.

You need a best friend, someone you can tell; communication is the key. You need someone who is as intelligent as you, but in a different way, so that you can constantly learn together.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Pisces, you want a fairytale love story with someone you can call artistic, poetic and sensitive.

You may not admit it out loud, but the idea of ​​helping someone who is a little lost or alone seems romantic to you as much as possible, because you like the idea of ​​becoming someone’s heroine ‘a !

You want someone who dazzles you and YOU dazzle.

What you need is someone who finds the strength to be independent.

You need someone who, no matter what, will wait for you and never leave you.

You may get lost in your thoughts, but your ideal partner will be patient and bring some form of stability to your life, without you having to be condescending or bossy.