IF I’m NOT YOUR FIRST CHOICE, DON’T BOTHER “CHOOSING” ME AT ALL.


Is there anything worse than knowing that you’re not someone’s first choice, that you’re second or third, or worse, on the list of the person you always put first?

Well for me, it’s the worst feeling there is.

How about you, would you accept being someone’s second choice? Would you be happy and satisfied with life knowing that you are only someone’s option?

No, of course, you wouldn’t.

Because not being a priority for the person you love and put on a pedestal is simply devastating. It’s painful.

And it makes you wonder why you’re not good enough, and what makes you not top of his list.

And honestly, I don’t ever want to feel like that again in my life.

For once in my life, I’ve settled for less than I deserve. Only once in my life have I allowed the man I love to treat me like a backup plan.

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Only once did I allow me to go beyond that for a man who refused to make me a priority. Once was enough, and I will never make the same mistake again.

Real men don’t play games, you know. They don’t make promises they don’t intend to keep.

They don’t engage in relationships with women they don’t take seriously, and they certainly don’t make women believe they’re loved and important just to put them at the bottom of their priority list.

It took me a while to realize that coming first for the person who loves you is the surest sign of love.

It’s not the flowers and roses, hugs and kisses, breakfast in bed or anything else, it’s constantly being chosen over everything else.

Choosing to commit to a single woman and discarding everything else is worth it. To be honest, it’s not a risk, it’s an obligation you have to the idea of love.

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If you want to love, have the decency to do it properly.

If you want to respect your feelings and those of the person you love, make sure that they come first, that they come before and above everyone else. It is indeed as simple as that.

I’ve had my share of lessons and I know better than anyone that you should never settle for less in love and life.

No matter what you think or what anyone else thinks, I know that I am worthy of it. I know I’m good enough.

I know I deserve to be a priority, to be the first choice, and to be at the top of someone’s priority list.

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If I’m not your first choice, don’t even bother picking me. Get away from me. Spare us the constant struggle and the fact that I’m asking you for something you’re not willing to give me.

I’m the kind of woman who does everything she can. I expect a lot only because I’m willing to give a lot too.

I’m prepared to love you with my entire being. I’m ready to commit and I’m ready to go the extra mile for us.

But I’m only ready to do that if I see that you’re ready to do the same. Because I don’t want to bend over backward for someone who’s not ready to make me his first choice.

Don’t bother giving me crumbs of your affection because I don’t want it. Either I’ll be your first choice or nothing at all. It’s up to you.