Do you find that after several years, despite the promise you had made to always be in love, your couple is at a standstill? Your husband no longer seems neither interested in you, nor in the life of your couple, your relationship is falling apart? Or did he just leave you suddenly? Know that in any case, it is possible to win back your man. Yes but how? Talking About Love gives you the tips today to learn how to win back your man as a couple:
1 / Take stock
Whatever the reasons for your situation, know one thing: the wrongs are shared. No, he is not entirely responsible for the situation. No, you are not fully responsible either. So flee from any bad guilt that will prevent you from moving forward and keep you in a vicious circle. No, you must remain dignified, dynamic, and positive! Your situation, as unpleasant as it may be, is far more common than you might think.
The first thing to do is therefore to determine the possible reasons for the departure of your man, the disintegration of your couple. To identify the errors which, once your man has won back, obviously should not be repeated. So do not hesitate to put it all on paper, so as not to omit anything, and to be able to come back to it, thus allowing your thinking to mature properly.
Often, the reasons are multiple misunderstandings, a series of misunderstandings, a lack of listening to the other, and his needs. Once these reasons have been identified, find suitable solutions for each of your common mistakes. You can then discuss it calmly and calmly with your man afterwards. Because a couple is above all a team, so do not go alone and go the whole way alone in your corner!
Whatever happens, whatever the situation, don’t make the mistake of harassing him! And don’t use emotional blackmail either if you have children, even if you don’t have any elsewhere! Don’t get sticky or desperate. This will not make you attractive and will not improve the situation in any way. On the contrary, it will cost you energy at best, and at worst you will only scare it away more.
2 / Communicate
Resume the dialogue. Recontact your husband with a new life plan. Show that you want to move forward and start on a new foundation. You can do this by letter if you wish. If you want to find the right words, and not get carried away, interrupt your thinking. This will obviously have to be carefully drafted. Weigh all your sentences and do not make a list of accusations and accusations, rightly or wrongly. Words fly away, writings remain ! And you don’t want to make it worse. To do this, take a step back from what you just wrote. Do not send your letter on a whim, wait a few days and see if you want to modify it, complete it, or simply keep it without sending it.
Consult a marriage counselor/therapist (as a couple it goes without saying) if your man agrees to do this. A professional is sometimes essential to refocus communication within the couple. He will have the words and the methods so that you can settle your differences, as long as you both put in goodwill.
Reintegrate active listening into your relationship! Because too often, over time, we get carried away by the routine and we forget to be really present for the other … Listening to their desires and needs. So really be more present to each other, and willing to listen to him in everything he has to say.
3 / Break the routine
Getaway together! Do you have kids? Entrust them to keep your parents, friends, etc … And go free! Go for a weekend, a week for lovers. Just the two of you, far from all the little worries, worries, and daily activities. Take advantage of this parenthesis to find yourself and really dialogue!
Ideally, combine these short holidays with a passion, an activity that your man likes, if possible, in order to place him in the best moods!
4 / Seduce him again
The routine also goes through the bed! And the reconquest, by the physical! So to do so, to rekindle the desire in your partner, here are several relatively basic, but effective ideas:
Dress in a way that makes you stand out. Make sure you choose an outfit that makes you feel more beautiful every day, makes you shine. This will be felt in everything you do, and your husband can only appreciate (re) discovering his wife in a new light. On the underwear side, invest in pretty alluring underwear that could be the little spark that rekindles the flame!
In bed, be open to change, and reestablish dialogue if you were more the type to go to bed without saying a word, or to cuddle in complete silence. Chat with your husband and see what you can do to spice up your lovemaking again! The solutions are many and varied, and have limits only those that you impose on yourself. In short, you must also break the routine in bed!
5 / Unable to communicate?
Are you unable to communicate or see your husband because he has cut ties? Or do you feel it is too early to start on a good basis? And that it will be impervious to change at first? Take some distance, cut the bridges a little, breathe! And obviously make sure to make the most of this break. Even if it is not obvious. Rebuild yourself. This is the only way you can plan a new start.
If you have children, do the minimum union when you need to see your husband, without being too cold! Stay as neutral as possible. While showing (without exaggerating!) That you are having a good couple break, and take the opportunity to thrive. Because if you want to win back your husband, you must already be able to be in harmony with yourself. Being s**xy, attractive, attractive goes hand in hand with self-confidence and dynamism. So take it back!
Get out of your comfort zone. Make new discoveries. Do everything you could not do for lack of time, availability! In short; bring change into your life! It is even possible that your husband. Surprised that you are not chasing him, and finding that you are flourishing on your side, comes back to himself!
6 / What to do if he has recovered as a couple
The same attitude as if it were not the case! Highlight your personal development. Treat yourself, treat yourself! And if you ever come across your man and his new partner on the street, don’t go and avoid them, but confront them! Be careful, without getting them in the bacon or making yourself as cold as an iceberg. No, stay calm, smiling, and pleasant. Believe it, you will be much more threatening for his new companion with this type of attitude than with any other (nervousness, household scene, embarrassment, despair, depression, etc.) ! In short, do everything you can to become a better ideal than your current partner. Without ever trying to recover it. It is much more likely that he will come back to you by himself after noticing his error!