A study has shown that in 36 questions and around 45 minutes, we can fall in love.
In 1997, Arthur Aron invented this method which would be… infallible! Thus, two complete strangers who would answer these 36 questions and look at each other for four minutes at the end, would fall in love. It sounds crazy and improbable.
The person chosen was not a complete stranger and the two “players” exceeded the indicated game time, however, the rules were followed. Mandy Len then explains: “ You are certainly wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, yeah. While it is difficult to credit the study entirely, it gave us a way to start a relationship in a thoughtful way. We spent weeks in this intimate space that we had created that night, waiting to see how it will evolve. ”
Inevitably, the questions are intimate and personal and allow the other to enter our hidden sphere. Confidence is therefore quickly established and we have the feeling of knowing the person opposite, since always.
The method: 36 questions to fall in love
1) If you could have dinner with anyone around the world, who would you choose?
2) Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3) Before you make a phone call, do you repeat what you say each time? Why?
4) How would you define a “perfect day”?
5) When was the last time you sang for yourself? What about someone?
6) If you could live to be 90 and keep either the mind or the body of a thirtieth for the last sixty years of your life, what would you choose?
7) Do you have a feeling about how you are going to die?
8) List three things that you and your partner seem to have in common.
9) What is the thing you are most grateful for in life?
10) If you could change one thing in the way you were educated, what would it be?
11) Take four minutes to tell your partner about your life in as much detail as possible.
12) If you could wake up tomorrow having gained a quality or a skill, what would it be?
13) If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything, what would you want to know?
14) Is there something you’ve been dreaming of for a long time? Why didn’t you do it?
15) What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16) What is the most important thing in friendship?
17) What is your most precious memory?
18) What is your most terrible memory?
19) If you knew you were going to die suddenly in a year, would you change anything in your lifestyle? Why?
20) What does the word “friendship” mean to you?
21) What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22) Share something that you consider to be a positive characteristic with your partner. Share five in total.
23) How close and warm is your family? Do you think your childhood was happier than that of most people?
24) How do you judge your relationship with your mother?
25) Tell each one of three truths beginning with the word “we”. For example: “We are both in this room …”
26) Complete this sentence: “I would like to have someone to share …”
27) If you were to become close to your partner, tell them what would be important for them to know.
28) Tell your partner what you like about him. Be very honest and only say things you wouldn’t say to someone you just met.
29) Share an embarrassing moment in your life with your partner.
30) When did you cry in front of another person? And all alone?
31) Tell your partner something you already enjoy at home.
32) What subject is too serious to laugh about?
33) If you were to die tonight without having the opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having said? Why not tell them so far?
34) Your house, which contains everything that belongs to you, catches fire. After saving your family and pets, you have time to safely recover just one thing. What would it be? Why?
35) The death of which member of your family would affect you the most? Why?
36) Share a personal problem and ask your partner how he would handle it. Also, ask your partner to tell you how they think you are feeling about this problem.
And to fall in love again?
I did this test this summer with my pet, we were both in a bar and the idea came to my mind. Well, even after six years of living together, magic happens with this method. There is only positive, like “tell your partner what you like about him”, we make compliments, we rediscover ourselves, we are far from the routine or the reproaches and it feels great! I sincerely recommend it.