While most of us would like to be in love, it is sometimes difficult to take the necessary measures to let love enter our lives and our relationships. We also have difficulty giving and receiving love in a simple, open and vulnerable way.
What is love? It is simply a succession of actions that allows us to get closer to the people who are dear to us. In a romantic context, being in love means: expressing your affection (physical and emotional), giving pleasure and satisfaction to your loved one, sharing tenderness, compassion, and sensitivity.
Love is also the sharing of desires, intimate feelings, comfort, and material goods. This implies an exchange devoid of selfishness and personal interest. Being in love allows us to boost our self-esteem and our well being and to avoid disappointments.
Being in love: what does it imply?
The question then arises: are we loving enough? When we think of a relationship that is dear to us, we must ask ourselves these three questions:
1. Does each of us behave in ways that satisfy the other?
2. Do we do everything in our power to make the other person feel good?
3. Do we take into account the passions of the other, even those that are of no interest to us?
Often, we think that love is a passive state and we forget that it is a decision that we must make. We choose our partner. We choose to love and cherish him and, every day, we choose to adopt a behavior that will strengthen our bond and our love.
To be in love is neither magic nor fantasy. When we forget that we are two separate individuals and that we each have our desires and our objectives, we tend to see our couple as a unit (a fusion of two individuals). This kind of relationship gives us a false sense of security. We also lose important aspects of our personality and neglect the crucial aspects of our relationship.
Romantic relationships begin to deteriorate when we see our partner as a means of meeting our own needs, rather than someone to whom we should give pleasure and happiness. To be in love is to give!
Give of yourself, your time and your energy to make the other happy and satisfied. Love is not made to rebuild our ego or to manipulate. on the contrary: it is the sincere appreciation of a person as an individual apart. When we understand this, we want to show compassion and kindness towards our partner because all we are looking for is happiness!
Being in love: the 10 signs that don’t deceive!
How to know that you are really in love. Here is a list of 10 signs that prove you’re crazy about him:
1. You think your man is special
When you are in love, you think that your partner is unique and you are no longer able to feel a romantic passion for anyone else.
2. You focus on the positive
People in love tend to focus on the qualities and good sides of their partner and forget their negative character traits. They also remember (and often) the good times spent together and keep precious romantic memories.
3. Emotional instability
As is well known, being in love often leads to emotional and physiological instability. On the one hand, you feel excitement, euphoria, excess energy, you have trouble sleeping, eating and you tremble all the time. Your heart is beating fast! On the other hand, as soon as your relationship encounters an obstacle, you suffer from anxiety, hopelessness and you have panic attacks.
These mood changes are very similar to those experienced by drug addicts. Indeed, love is a form of addiction!
4. Intrusive thoughts
According to scientific studies, people in love spend around 85% of their time thinking about their other half. This behavior is worthy of a subject of psychoanalysis because it is almost obsession.
5. Emotional dependence
Often, people in love show signs of emotional dependence such as possessiveness, jealousy, fear of rejection, and anxiety about separation. In addition, your desire for an exclusive relationship is reinforced by these same feelings. We come back to the same conclusion again: love is an addiction.
6. You plan your future
To feel even closer to your partner, you imagine your common future. This desire to build a future with someone is almost a vital need: this is what we need to survive. After all, love is what allows us to reproduce and, therefore, to prolong life on earth.
Being in love means that you have a great sense of empathy for your partner. You feel his pain as if it were yours and are ready to sacrifice everything for the other.
8. You imitate each other’s behaviors
Being in love will often push you to change (unconsciously) your priorities, your friends, your way of speaking, your habits and tastes in order to be more in osmosis with your partner. By magnetism, you copy what your other half does. But beware! Remember that you are an individual and that you must keep your personality and originality.
9. You need an emotional union
Contrary to what one might think, people in love do not think that sex is the priority of their relationship. It is important but not existential. Being in love means looking for someone you can connect with emotionally and emotionally.
10. You feel like you are losing control
To be in love is to no longer have any control over your passion. It is involuntary and undeniable. Many people even think that love is irrational and obsessive. It is as if the attraction you have for your partner is biological and instinctive.
Unfortunately, being in love is not a lasting state. Most of the time, love turns into a co-dependent relationship or it simply disappears. People in long-distance relationships are more likely than others to make this honeymoon phase last.