My husband and I are constantly running at full speed. You probably feel the same way. Between a lack of time and financial restraints there are many times that weeks, even months can go by without having a date. I’ve noticed that when we let a lot of time go by without a date we tend to be tenser and on two different pages.
Couple time is important to your marriage, especially when life is fast and furious. Making some one-on-one time for you and your husband can be tricky, but it’s necessary. When the traditional dinner and a movie on Saturday night just isn’t going to happen, try one of these fresh date ideas.
1. Break a sweat together.
If you can find a neighbor or friend to hang out with the kids for an hour (or two), go for a quick bike ride, run, or walk. The exercise will be a great stress reliever for both of you, and during the cool down, you’ll have a chance to talk.
2. Try breakfast or lunch, instead.
If your work schedule is flexible enough to allow coming in an hour later once in a while, try going out for breakfast after the kids are off to school. You might find that you’re even more tuned in to each other early in the day before fatigue sets in. Or take your lunch break together—the kids are in school (no sitter required) and everyone has to each lunch, right?
3. Get lost together in a local museum or art gallery.
It’s fun to just wander and take in the exhibits with no particular agenda. What you see will often spark interesting conversation, and reveal more about your spouse and how he sees the world. Plus, many museums and galleries have no or low admission fees.
4. Take on a project together.
Make sure it’s not too stressful or complex, but something that you can toil away on, side-by-side, often allowing a chance to talk and share along the way. Think planting a new flower bed, doing a jigsaw puzzle, or painting a room.
5. Picnic in the park.
If a sitter is nowhere to be found, there’s no better place to keep the kids at bay while you reconnect than the park. Take a blanket and picnic, pick a spot where you can see the kids on the playground, and let them go. While they play, you can relax and chat.
6. Participate in a couples’ bible study or small group at your church.
You’ll likely enjoy the time with other couples, and many churches provide childcare for these activities.
7. Take in the late show at the drive-in.
Drive-ins are making a comeback in some areas, and it’s a great option for parents of small children. Put them in their jammies and let them get comfy in the back seat, and they’ll be asleep before the previews are over. Then slide over next to your sweetie and pretend you’re 18 again. If you’re not a night owl – and more of an early bird – you can catch the matinee, which is also a little cheaper!
8. Take a day off together.
Your kids are at school, and you can hire a babysitter for the afternoon hours so you can just enjoy each other’s company for an entire day.
Tell Us! What are some of your favorite dates with your husband?