He had been working hard on it for a two and a half hours. My van’s air conditioning had gone out and my husband was confident he could fix it. He researched Youtube videos and bought all of the supplies necessary. Something went wrong because he was in the garage grumbling (sometimes yelling) to himself. As midnight approached, he finally gave up. I was in the kitchen when he walked in. He was sweating, panting, and had grease and grime smeared all over his face. I couldn’t help it. It just happened, I laughed. I quickly put my hand over my mouth to stop myself. He turned and walked up the stairs, frustrated and defeated.
Knowledge about cars and the ability to work on them is something my husband feels insecure about as a man. I think a lot of men do. When I laughed at him it made him feel like less of a man than he already felt. The person with the greatest ability to make your husband feel like a man is you. The person with the most power to make him feel less than a man is also you. That’s exactly what my mistake did. Eliminating these mistakes will lift our husbands up and make your marriage stronger. Here are 5 marriage mistakes women make and what can be done about it.
1. Not showing their husband respect.
Respect his judgment. Don’t constantly question his decisions. Respect his abilities. Give him a chance to fix the sink before you call the plumber if he really wants to take a shot at fixing the sink.
2. Not affirming their husband as a man.
Tell your husband that you think he is handsome. Thank him for being a good father, validate his ideas on family matters, and offer him specific encouragement when you see or hear of his successes at his job.
3. Not putting their husband before their kids.
Don’t let your life revolve around your kids. At some point, your children will leave home and you will find yourself sharing an empty house with a total stranger. Make your relationship with your husband a top priority and consider trying to schedule a monthly date night to stay connected through quality time.
4. Not trusting their husband.
Trust can be difficult, but it is necessary. Without it, you will never feel secure in your marriage. And your husband will never feel like he is worthy of your trust. If trust has been broken by your husband, he will need to earn it back. Allow him to take the necessary steps to restore it by choosing to believe the best about him even in your disappointments. A marriage without trust is built not on a rock, but on the sand.
5. Not wanting their husband physically.
Physical intimacy is important to a man. To know that he is desired by his wife makes him feel like he is important. Your husband wants to be wanted. Make it a priority in your marriage. If you’re in a season where you’re struggling to make time for sex or you aren’t desiring intimacy as much as your spouse know you’re not alone.
What are some other mistakes women make in marriage?