17 Signs He Actually Doesn’t Love You

Why is he looking for signs that he doesn’t love you anymore?
Let me guess.

Something’s going on in your relationship, and you are looking for 100% no-doubt signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

You often wonder if you’re looking for signs that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with you anymore.

Moreover, you truly think that he is on the edge of breaking up with you.

How will you tell him if he doesn’t love you anymore?? Does he even care about you?


If it turns out that you are with a man who doesn’t care about you, your heart is about to be broken.

Despite that, it’s far better to be happy alone than miserable with someone who doesn’t want you in his life. If your guy ticks the boxes on 3 or more of the signs below – he doesn’t really love you.

So let’s dive in and find out if it’s true that he isn’t the one for you.

  1. You Feel Anxious Around Him, And You Don’t Know Why

Needless to say, if your boyfriend doesn’t love you anymore there’s a weird vibe he transmits onto you, and you feel it. He is probably more confused than you right now, and his anxiousness gets to you.

You often feel like you’re walking on eggshells and like you’re going to explode any second, trying to find out what’s’ going on in his head.

On top of that, if you are in denial and refuse to accept that he no longer loves you, then you are in the middle of inner conflict with yourself.

All that slowly kills your sanity, and you get panicked and scared of what the future will bring.

  1. No Effort In The Relationship

In fact…

It’s been a one-sided relationship for a long time.

And you know what?

You feel tired, annoyed and powerless all at once.

It’s clear that your relationship is failing, but he doesn’t do anything about it.

Moreover, he hasn’t initiated almost any of your last few (or even more) dates, and he doesn’t work on getting closer to you. There is no communication between you two anymore, and nothing could trigger him to invest his time in this relationship.

Most of all…

  1. It Looks Like Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Care About You Anymore

When a man loves you deeply, he cares about the way you feel all the time.

Even when he has problems.

Even when he is out with friends.

Even when he has the right not to care.

When a man loves you, he is there for you. No. Matter. What.

But not your guy. He makes you feel left outside and alone. You need his support, but he’s nowhere to be found.

And this won’t surprise you: he doesn’t love you anymore.

  1. He Is Distant Emotionally

It’s like there’s a wall between you two
It’s simple.

A man who is in love with you will look for ways to be close to you. And I don’t mean just the physical touch.

The essential connection that builds a strong and fulfilling relationship is emotional commitment and closeness.

This is the part where you will actually know for sure if he loves you or not.

Is he distant?

Does he prefer not to talk to you about things that bother him?

Do you feel he’s put a massive wall between you two and no matter how hard you hit it, you can’t find even a peephole so you could get to him?

Well, that’s a huge red flag that your guy isn’t comfortable being with you and he might not love you anymore.

  1. He Says He Needs Space

Agh, men and their need for space.

We, we all need space!

Even you.

But there’s a healthy space between two people, and then there’s space that feels like he’s pulling away.

How to know if the space he needs is in the first category?

That depends on how long you’ve been together.

In the first few weeks or months, many couples prefer to spend all of their free time together. But when the honeymoon phase is over, you both need some space.
You want to see other people and spend time with friends.

Can I be totally honest with you?

If that happens – it’s normal.

So what’s not normal then?

It’s not normal to push you away all the time. It’s not normal to see each other only once in the week (if there isn’t a good reason for it). Ignoring your calls because “he needs time alone”, not answering your messages for hours (all the time) isn’t normal.

Pushing you away regularly, calling you clingy and making you feel bad that you want to be with him – that’s not normal. That’s manipulation and it’s a sign he doesn’t care about your relationship.

But that’s not all…

  1. Your Partner Doesn’t Want You To Bother Him

Why would he feel bothered by you if he loved you?
Add this sign to the previous one.

Can you believe that I had an email from a lady who was saying that her boyfriend didn’t want to see her more than once a week?

She was depressed because she believed she loved him, but couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t want to spend more time together?

Are you in a similar situation?

Well, let me tell you that’s not OK. Your boyfriend doesn’t appreciate you; he doesn’t respect you and most of all – he doesn’t care about you.

In fact…

He is using you.

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  1. Communication Issues As One Of The Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

Communication issues indicate that there’s something wrong happening
Seriously, so many dating and relationship coaches have spent thousands of hours explaining it to all of us – communication is everything in a relationship.

Moreover, I’ve seen its importance in my relationships too.

How to know if you have communication issues?

Ask yourself these 4 questions:

Do I feel 100% comfortable speaking to him about my problems?
Does he actively listen to what I say?
Am I aware of what’s going on in his personal life?
Compared to the beginning of our relationship – do our conversations get deeper and more meaningful?
The answers will tell you if you have communication problems. And if you do – there are many ways to fix them, at the end of this post I will show you one way to do it.

  1. He Never Compromises

Most of all, he doesn’t feel like he has to compromise with anything in his life.

That makes you the only worker in your relationship. You must juggle with your life, move appointments, change plans and shape yourself according to whatever your guy needs and wants.


Why do you have to be the one who always “has to change”, “must accept it as it is” and “must not bother with anything”?
Here’s the thing: I don’t like compromises either. Neither you do. Actually, no one does.

But they are one of the 10 most important relationship habits you must have to build a strong relationship. If he’s not willing to compromise then he’s not ready to put effort into your relationship. The conclusion is only one: he doesn’t care about you anymore as much as you’d like him to.

  1. He gets angry for no reason and that’s a great sign that he doesn’t love you.

This is one of the disturbing signs that he no longer loves you.

It’s also a sign that he wishes he didn’t know what it feels like.

In my previous relationship (which broke my heart into a million pieces) I always had to be very careful about what I say and how I say it. The guy got angry for no reason, just like that. He looked at me and immediately got snippy and pushed me away.

I felt unworthy and less of a woman, almost as much as our relationship lasted.

But the truth?

He wasn’t angry with me. At least not really.

He was mainly angry with himself because he was confused about his feelings and the decisions he had made so far. It was just a reminder that he had taken another wrong turn in his life. Sadly, but certainly, he was stuck in a toxic relationship.

Did his partner get angry all the time for no reason?

Maybe because he has realized that he doesn’t love you (or is on his way to doing so) and doesn’t want to face the consequences.

  1. he doesn’t need your opinion anymore

It’s a sure sign that he doesn’t love you anymore.
It’s not like I have to ask your permission or anything. She’s free to do whatever she wants with her life.

Isn’t she?

If you are in a serious relationship (or want to be in one), almost every decision you make will affect the other person in one way or another.

If you want to quit your job and live together, it will affect you one way or another. Or you may start smoking, fight with your family, or even decide to become a vegan.

Whatever it is, if you decide to change something in your life, it will affect you. And that’s normal. That’s why we call the relationship a partnership. You are the CEOs of your company (the relationship).

Does your husband ignore you when he has to decide something important in his life? Are you the last one to know what’s wrong with him?

This could be a great sign that he doesn’t care about you anymore, and your opinion doesn’t matter to him.

  1. She’s texting other girls

You don’t say!

Why would he do that if he really loves you?

Because he can do whatever he wants with his life?

It’s all right.

But what about you? What’s his position in this situation? Do you pretend it’s okay to watch him chat and flirt with other people? If you don’t feel loved and you don’t feel comfortable in that situation, then pack up and move on with your life. He doesn’t care about your feelings.

  1. He doesn’t take time for you.

Signs that he no longer loves you and no longer wants to be with you. Your relationship will end soon when she shows three or more of these signs that she no longer loves you.

I understand, we are all busy living our lives.

You want to know a secret your husband won’t admit to?

If he truly loved you, he’d make time for you.

Does he like to play games? I bet he makes time to play.

Would you like to spend time with your friends?
I bet he makes time for them, too.

If we like doing something or being with someone, our whole life depends on the idea of ending up doing that thing or being with that person.

It’s that simple.

Look at yourself.

You’re making time for both of us because you care about him.
. How do you respond to that? Does he care about you at all?

  1. When you tell him that you love him, he hesitates before responding.

I know it hurts.

And I know what the worst part is.

Is the fact that every time you tell him you love him and you see his hesitation, something in you dies. Every time. Every time.

Because deep down, you know he doesn’t love you anymore.

There should be no hesitation, no pause, no looking away or rolling your eyes, none of that.

There should be love. Unconditional.

  1. He Refuses To Talk About It And Gets Angry

Does he get angry if you try to initiate an important conversation with him?
Be honest.

Would you get angry if he’d come to you and tell you he isn’t sure you love him?


You would be worried. You would ask him what made him feel that way. You would be concerned you did something that misled him.

So, why does he get angry about it if you ask him the same?

Why does he hides behind his anger and uses it to avoid the painful conversation?

I’ll tell you why.

It’s because he knows he cannot hide it as well as he wants. He doesn’t love you anymore and he needs time to accept that.
Anger and attack is the best defensive tactic ever. So, he uses it every time he needs to drag the attention away from the problems.

  1. If you don’t contact him he will not contact you

Have you ever wondered why he never texts you first in the morning?

Do you want to know why he never calls you just to hear how you are?

That’s the one sign he doesn’t love you that screams “disrespect” so loud that it would be nonsense to ignore it.

Do you wonder in how many other ways he is disrespecting you? Head over to this post to see the 10 most disturbing signs of disrespect you most likely ignore all the time.

  1. Intimacy Doesn’t Feel So Intimate Anymore

Have you noticed that your love life gets colder and emotionless?

In fact, you still do it, and it’s still nice…

He doesn’t feel so connected and intimate anymore.
It feels cold, and it’s like you do it “just because you are good at it”.

Yep, that’s a sign he doesn’t have any deep feelings for you. He doesn’t really love you.

  1. He Doesn’t Make Plans With You

That’s one of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore and I must admit…

Even I’ve done that one.

I was with a guy, and I was planning to break up with him when we see each other, but he kept texting me to make plans for Christmas. I made up some stupid excuse and hated myself for it. But it was just for a day or two.

What if your guy doesn’t want to make any plans for the future with you?

There’s only one logical reason: he doesn’t plan to spend that future with you.

Additional sign that he’s no longer in love with you.
There is one more sign he doesn’t love you anymore, and it’s the most important one.

It’s the fact you don’t feel loved.

I’ve said it so many times on this blog – I know how it feels to be loved, and I know how it hurts if you aren’t loved.

It’s not only that you don’t feel he loves you, but you feel ignored, hurt and meaningless. And that’s the biggest sign you must end things with him. Don’t wait for him to decide your future. Life is too short and too beautiful to waste it waiting for someone to man-up.

Want to know one more secret?

More often than not, we ignore the little voice in our head that screams “Run!” all the time. We choose to fight for him, to prove him we deserve his attention, to force him to accept us in his life.

We search for proofs he doesn’t love us just to be sure he doesn’t cover the points.

But he does.

Am I right?

Share in the comment below your signs he doesn’t love you anymore.

Be strong, and as a person who’s gone through all this and more, I could tell you: There is someone who waits for you to start loving yourself so he could start loving you too.