Jealousy, who hasn’t felt it before? In small doses, it can sometimes rekindle your feelings, but beware, jealousy is also one of the first factors in the development of the conflict in a couple. What are the behaviors that promote jealousy?
What is jealousy?
Jealousy arises from a psychological conflict that sends you back to your fears and insecurities. It usually occurs when you lose confidence in yourself or have a drop in self-esteem. Jealousy is when you want what you can’t get, so you envy others for what they have that you don’t have. Of course, jealousy is not objective and often manifests itself in distrust, aggressiveness, and concern for yourself or others.
Behaviors that fuel jealousy
- Constantly talking about a co-worker
He’s nice, he’s charming, he’s thoughtful. In short, you fell under his spell. That doesn’t mean you’re in love with him, but if you keep talking well about everything that this colleague does and says, chances are your partner will end up suspicious and worried. If you want to provoke jealousy in him, this is a good way to do it, but if this is not your intention, do not forget to remind your lover of his qualities and to dose your enthusiasm for this extraordinary colleague.
- Register on a dating site
Out of curiosity, you have registered on a dating site to see who are the single men and women in your area. Even if you do so without malice and without any real desire to deceive your lover, if he realizes that you have, even if only opened a profile, you can be sure that it will arouse his discontent and jealousy. Admit it, if you felt like looking elsewhere, there must be a reason, otherwise, why tempt the devil unnecessarily.
- Exchange e-mails or text messages with another person.
You met someone in a gym or at a party. Whether it’s an old acquaintance or a new one, if you start exchanging naughty and charming emails and text messages right under your partner’s nose, you can be sure that it won’t be without consequences. Seeing you smile and giggle at each exchange can make your partner feeling frustrated and jealous of the person with whom you seem to have so much fun.
- Charming someone else while you are with your partner.
At a party, one of your friends shows up with a charming and interesting person. You want to play the game of seduction. You even come to forget that your spouse is there, somewhere, and that he/she can see you making eyes or touch this person affectionately. Be aware that there are limits you should not cross if you do not want to hurt your lover and if you do not want to make him/her jealous. It’s nice to feel that you are pleasing to others, but if you love your partner, it’s better to be careful what you do.
- Smelling someone else’s perfume
If you arrive home and you have a scent of perfume on your neck that is not yours (or your partner’s), there is a good chance that this will raise questions. Imagination is fertile and your partner could imagine all sorts of scenarios.
- Making yourself look good for an outing without your partner
You’re going out with friends for a simple dinner, but contrary to your habits, you’re putting on the gum to make yourself look good. Before you leave, your spouse will certainly find you very chic, but he/she may wonder and imagine that you are on a date.
- Going home a little later without explaining yourself.
You’re used to coming home early and you’re the type to explain every minute that you’re late, but now you come home early in the morning without explanation. If your partner asks you questions and you don’t want to give any answers, chances are he/she is wondering. If you have nothing to hide, think about it before you play the game of hiding, it may cause unnecessary worry.
- Wrong first name
You have the wrong name: whether it is a pure distraction or a strange slip of the tongue, your partner may be surprised. Expect to have to answer questions.
- Seeing your ex again
Despite your break-up, you still talk with your ex, keep pictures, and even go out to dinner with him on occasion. You say he’s just a friend. But even if this is true, he is still your ex and seeing him again can play on the other person’s trust, because who hasn’t heard of a friend who has relapsed with their ex, etc.? You have shared highlights with this